Tammy Nelson: Getting the Sex You Want at 1440 Multiversity

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Getting the Sex You Want

A Deep Dive into the Spirit of Intimacy

April 12 - 14, 2019

Friday - Sunday, 2 nights

9.5 CE Credits Available

All-inclusive program package to include:

<ul> <li>Tuition</li> <li>Three Meals in Kitchen Table (daily)</li> <li>Shared or Private Accommodations</li> <li>Signature classes and wellness offerings</li> </ul> <p>Please Note: All packages are priced per person. Should you elect a shared accommodation and community hall bath, 1440 will randomly pair you with a gender-specific roommate. Only private rooms have the option of a private bath.  1440 Multiversity is a smoke-free campus.</p>

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Program Description

Are you ready to find more sexual satisfaction? Learn how to live in a deeper, more connected place at this vitalizing workshop led by licensed psychotherapist and sexuality and relationship expert Tammy Nelson, PhD. Tammy draws on years of clinical work and research on eroticism and sexuality to create an empowering weekend where you will discover how to bring spiritual, emotional, and erotic growth into your sex life.

Most psychotherapists are unclear on how to use a non-pathological therapy approach to intervene in treating sexuality. Therapists and clinicians need accurate diagnostic and treatment skills to guide couples through a clearly identified process with three phases of emotional and erotic recovery to enable couples to envision a new awakened sexual relationship.

You will:

  • Compare the difference between spiritual mate, companion, and erotic partner and how psychotherapy pathologizes sexuality
  • State the anthropological effects on eroticism and what it takes to express erotic needs, share desires, and improve on companionship versus sex life
  • Explain conceputally why pleasure avoidance influences arousal and desire and how to decrease denial, aversion, avoidance, and rejection of pleasure
  • Recommend how to help couples access erotic fantasy and feel comfortable sharing with their potential or current partner and how this sexual generosity integrates split off sexuality
  • Define sexual empathy and how fantasies are formed and why we desire what we do and how anxiety is healed by sexual fantasy
  • Define and explore the monogamy continuum and a monogamy agreement to help couples explore and rewrite their ideal relationship.
  • Identify where they are on the erotic curiosity spectrum and how this relates to the effort they put into a relationship
  • Identify how the ancient art of tantra relates to more contemporary models of trauma work and sex therapy.

We all want to feel desirable, special, and unique. Sex and erotic energy are a sacred part of any life or partnership. Yet our erotic life can be fraught with conflict and power struggles. Now is the time to reignite passion through sexual generosity and integrated communication.

Whether you’re between relationships or wish to navigate pain, frustration, or longing in your relationship, you’ll take home simple techniques to honor eroticism as a spiritual space and to create sacred opportunity for sexual empathy and a deeper, more connected life.

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  • Faculty Bio
    Tammy Nelson, PhD

    Sex and relationship expert, licensed psychotherapist

    Tammy Nelson, PhD, is a sex and relationship expert, international speaker, author, and licensed psychotherapist with almost 30 years of experience working with individuals and couples. In private practice, she focuses on helping people of all ages, orientations, and genders find love, healing, and passion.

    Tammy is an AASECT-certified sex therapist, licensed professional counselor, board-certified sexologist, certified Imago Relationship Therapist, and a licensed alcohol and drug abuse counselor. She is the author of several books including The New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity and Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.

    Her e-books include Six Weeks of Erotic Dates & A Protocol for Erotic Recovery and chapters and articles on topics such as sexuality, desire, affair recovery, monogamy issues, open marriage, online infidelity, intentional divorce, passionate relationships, and everything related to couples.

    Tammy has been a featured expert in the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, the Washington Post, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, Redbook, MSNBC, Men’s Health, and Woman’s Day, and she has been a source for Time magazine. She writes for the Psychotherapy Networker and is a blogger for the Huffington Post and YourTango.

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  • Why Attend
    • Access your erotic fantasies and desires and break through shame and embarrassment to share them with current or potential partners.

    • Focus on your most intimate needs and desires and learn to define and enhance them to discover the deepest depths of pleasure.

    • Propel forward into a new dimension of love, spirit, and eroticism for deeper intimacy, fantastic sex, and erotic connection.

    • Study the erotic, intimate language of sex—how we can use it to show love or feel loved, to find pleasure or relaxation, or as a path to spiritual enlightenment and illumination.

  • Things to Know/Schedule

    Program Schedule

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    None required.

    Experience Level

    None required.

    CEs Available

    This class is approved for 10 CEUs for AASECT certification and for CSCT hours. These AASECT CEUs are qualified CEs for APA in most states. Please contact your local certifying organization for detailed information.

    Please Contact Dr. Nelson for more information about CEs.

    [email protected]

    Special Interest to

    All couples and individuals looking to improve their erotic lives; therapists and healthcare professionals who want to learn to work with eroticism.

    Special Details

    There is no forced sharing in this workshop. All conversations between participants happen with consent. There is no nudity or mandatory intimate connection or coercion. There is no sex between participants. This workshop is a safe space run by a trained psychotherapist and certified sex therapist with over 30 years of experience.

  • About 1440 Multiversity

    Beautifully nestled in the California redwoods near Santa Cruz, our 75-acre campus is within easy reach of San Francisco and Silicon Valley.

    1440 Multiversity is a place to spend time engaging some of life's most meaningful personal questions and to enjoy, restore, and reenergize yourself as you do it.

    You'll find new energy through immersion learning—setting aside daily urgencies and dedicating uninterrupted time to focus on important, but often elusive, priorities. Our unique collaboration with world-class faculty coupled with an original, inspirational curriculum and magnificent grounds make this a place like no other. Add in fresh, redwood-scented air, delicious and healthy food, deep reflection, fun exercise, and good sleep and you've pretty much captured what you'll experience here.

  • Accommodations

    At 1440 Multiversity, you’ll find a wide range of accommodations to meet your preferences and budget. All of our rooms have been thoughtfully designed to provide comfort, promote reflection, and foster connection with others.

    Accommodation rates include more than just the bed you sleep in.

    Per-person per-night rates include:

    • nourishing locally sourced, seasonal meals
    • daily meditation and yoga classes
    • non-ticketed evening events
    • use of all facilities, including the Fitness Center, steam rooms, and infinity-edge hot tub.

    Guests also enjoy access to woodland trails, cafés, and shops.


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