Secrets of Great Relationships
7.5 CE Hours available
June 9 - 11, 2017
Friday - Sunday, 2 nights
Plus 2 nights all-inclusive accommodations priced separatelyRegistration Closed
“For one human being to love another, that is the most difficult of all of our tasks; the ultimate, the last test and proof, for which all other work is but preparation.” —Rainer Maria Rilke
Having a great relationship means more than just staying together. Unless our patients enjoy trust, intimacy, caring and love with their partner, they are sharing an arrangement, and not a true partnership.
The biggest mistake that many people make is not in expecting too much from their relationship, but in desiring too little. A true partnership can not only provide security, pleasure, intimacy and fun, but can be a means through which our deepest longings are awakened and ultimately realized.
In this workshop, we will examine the unique qualities that exceptional relationships embody and identify the various means through which it is possible to develop and integrate those qualities and experiences into our lives. We will also identify ways of helping our patients effectively deal with differences and managing conflict in their relationships. In addition, we will identify and engage practices that can transform the quality of connection in ways that promote co-creativity, unconditional acceptance, and spiritual awakening.
You will learn:
- Formulate interventions with couples that promote greater understanding and non-defensive listening
- Describe the technology of conflict management.
- Define the nature of one’s “work” in regard to creating a context for respectful and honest relatedness.
- Explain the power of repair efforts with examples of various types of repairs when breakdowns occur in relationships.
- Identify the conditions and essential ingredients that make up a committed partnership
Linda and Charlie Bloom, LCSW, MSW
Authors and marriage and relationship counselors
Married since 1972, Linda Bloom, LCSW, and Charlie Bloom, MSW, have been working with groups, individuals, couples, and organizations to enhance the quality of their relationships and communication skills for more than 40 years.
With master’s degrees in clinical social work, they have lectured, led seminars, and provided consultation at universities and learning institutes throughout the world. Their organization, Bloomwork, is dedicated to promoting healthy, fulfilling, and successful relationships for individuals, couples, and organizations.
In addition to their academic and professional training, their expertise in the field of relationships stems from experience in the crucible of their own committed partnership of more than four decades.
Their best-selling book, 101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married: Simple Lessons to Make Love Last has sold more than 100,000 copies and been translated into numerous languages. They are also the authors of Secrets of Great Marriages: Real Truth from Real Couples about Lasting Love, and Happily Ever After . . . and 39 Other Myths about Love.
Help your patients:<br /> <br /> Elevate your relationship to the height of intimacy, pleasure, and trust.
Co-create a connection that deepens over time by learning the typical pitfalls between couples and how to navigate them if they arise.
Develop a higher degree of attunement and sensitivity towards others.
Things to Know
7:30 PM – 9:00 PM
Discuss Reveal-Conceal, Express-Repress, Accept-Reject. Connect-Protect. Refer to the couples we interviewed for our second book.
Fast track to enlightenment, Learning lab, participation, recognition of the value for me in creating an exemplary relationship.
Beginner’s mind, confidentiality, commitment, responsibility. Both people are responsible for creating the conditions of trust to fact the incompeletions.
Score 1-10 on responsibility scale.
Linda will personal share about the workaholic years, by making Monday count.
Exercise: Student Introductions
Handout on Reveal Conceal
6:30 AM – 7:45 AM: Yoga and Meditation classes
7:00 AM – 8:30 AM: Breakfast
8:30AM-11:30 AM: Incompletions and Competing Commitments. Work is the Invisible addiction, Mention the Five Regrets of the Dying
Conflict-T-up-money, sex, power, childrearing, in-laws, connection and autonomy.
Conflict Demo: Unfair Fight-Group Exercise
Sharing about skillful and unskillful means
Handout on Conflict
Emotional Intimacy (small amount of sexual intimacy) Ex: 0 to 10 overall level of well-being or not. Handout on Intimacy
Lunch/Break: 11:30 AM – 2:45 PM
2:45 to 4:45PM:
IDD is Intimacy Deficiency Disorder
T-up to Teacher Student-What I Love About You
Demo, Exercise: Gratitude, Sharing
Handouts on Secrets
6:30 AM – 7:45 AM: Yoga and Meditation classes
7:00 AM – 8:30 AM: Breakfast
8:30 AM – 9:30 AM: Free time
9:30 AM – 11:30AM:
Linda lead check in, include what is your take away?
any Other Questions
Exercise: What we’re taking home
Previews of coming attractions:
1. Email List for Booster shot once a month
2. Join us on Facebook
3. Phone counseling and Skype
4. Our books and DVD-a good resource to keep your gains going
5. 250 blogs on the web-all free
6. The Hidden Gifts of the Shadow Santa Cruz will be April 8
7. Trips: We have gone on 13 international exotic trips, 7 to Bali, 2 to Mexico, Panchu Pichu Peru, Bhutan, Cuba and in 2016 New Zealand. In 2018 possibly India.
CE Hours and CME are available and included in tuition. (Hi Ramona, I don’t have any info on number of CMEs for this course-where to find?)
This course has been approved for 7.5 CE hours for qualified participants. To learn how and where to apply, click HERE.
Cancellations and Refunds
If You Cancel
- If you cancel 14 or more days prior to your arrival date, payments made will be refunded in full (less a $50 processing fee).
- If you cancel between 13 days and 1 day prior to your arrival date, a nonrefundable credit (less a $50 processing fee) will be held for one year from the date of issue.
- No credit or refund is available if you cancel on your arrival day, if you do not show up, or if you leave a program or event early.
- No refund will be available if you attend a program and are dissatisfied with its presentation or content.
If 1440 Multiversity Cancels
On rare occasions, due to unforeseen circumstances, 1440 Multiversity may need to cancel a program. Should this circumstance arise, you will receive a full refund.
For questions or concerns, please email [email protected], Programming Department.
Special Interest To
Psychologists, Psychiatrists, Social Workers, MFTs, Counselors, Substance Abuse Counselors. All Levels.
About 1440 Multiversity
Beautifully nestled in the California redwoods near Santa Cruz, our 75-acre campus is within easy reach of San Francisco and Silicon Valley.
1440 Multiversity is a place to spend time engaging some of life’s most meaningful personal questions and to enjoy, restore, and reenergize yourself as you do it.
You’ll find new energy through immersion learning—setting aside daily urgencies and dedicating uninterrupted time to focus on important, but often elusive, priorities. Our unique collaboration with world-class faculty coupled with an original, inspirational curriculum and magnificent grounds make this a place like no other. Add in fresh, redwood-scented air, delicious and healthy food, deep reflection, fun exercise, and good sleep and you’ve pretty much captured what you’ll experience here.
At 1440 Multiversity, you’ll find a wide range of accommodations to meet your preferences and budget. All of our rooms have been thoughtfully designed to provide comfort, promote reflection, and foster connection with others.
Accommodation rates include more than just the bed you sleep in.
Per-person per-night rates include:
- nourishing locally sourced, seasonal meals
- daily meditation and yoga classes
- non-ticketed evening events
- use of all facilities, including the Fitness Center, steam rooms, and infinity-edge hot tub.
Guests also enjoy access to woodland trails, cafés, and shops.