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It’s OK If You’re Not OK

Supporting Self and Others in Difficult Times

June 22 - 24, 2018

Friday - Sunday, 2 nights

$295 Tuition

Plus 2 nights all-inclusive accommodations priced separately

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Program Description

We tend to look at loss, grief, or any kind of hardship as a problem to be solved. You hear someone’s pain, and you want to make it better. You see suffering for those you love, and you want it to stop.

That impulse to love and to soothe is human. It’s part of why you’re here.

In this weekend workshop, grief advocate Megan Devine, MFA, MA, unpacks the hidden messages inside our standard ways of giving support and offers new ways to do it better. Through lecture, group discussions, writing, and skills practices,

you will learn:

  • The hidden messages inside our standard ways of offering support (and why they need to change)
  • How to bear witness to pain without jumping in to fix it
  • To reclaim your sense of personal agency and efficacy through the use of simple communication skills to acknowledge and companion those in pain, as well as practical, useful ideas for showing your love in tangible ways
  • How to feel more comfortable in the face of all life’s losses-the smaller, everyday ones, to the big, life-altering ones.

This weekend will help you get what you most want: self-love in the midst of great pain, and the skills to love others well when the pain of this life grows too large for one person to hold.

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  • Faculty Bio
    Megan Devine

    Psychotherapist, writer, grief advocate, communication expert

    Megan Devine is on a mission to help people love each other better. A writer, speaker, and grief advocate from the Pacific Northwest, she is the founder of Refuge in Grief, a hub of grief education and outreach, where she leads people through some of the most devastating times of their lives. Together with her team, Megan facilitates a growing catalog of courses, events, and trainings to help grieving people, and those who wish to support them, learn the skills they need to carry pain that cannot be fixed.

    Throughout her 15-plus years as a psychotherapist, Megan has worked with people wrestling with substance addiction, homelessness, abuse, trauma, grief, and sexual violence. With master’s degrees in counseling psychology and fine arts, Megan’s studies have been focused on the cutting edge of emotional literacy and resilience. She has combined her studies with explorations into comparative religion, mythology, women’s history, and the use of art for social change.

    Megan came into even deeper touch with grief in 2009, after watching her partner unexpectedly drown three months from his fortieth birthday. In 2017 she authored It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture that Doesn’t Understand. Megan has been featured widely in the media, including Bustle, Thrive Global, Huffington Post, Modern Loss, and Psychology Today, and in dozens of podcasts and radio appearances.

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  • Why Attend
    • There’s so much pain in the world. It’s never been more important to talk about what really helps. Explore new ways of loving people through their pain and learn how to apply these skills to wider community and cultural challenges.

    • In the words of Megan, “Some things cannot be fixed. They can only be carried.” If you feel frustrated and helpless in the face of someone’s grief—you’re normal. Understand how to manage these feelings of helplessness, rather than act on them.

    • On a mission to help people love each other better, Megan will give you what our culture fails to: the tools and skills to come to grief and be truly helpful.

  • Things to Know

    Program Schedule

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    None required.

    Experience Level

    None required.

    Recommended Reading

    It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture that Doesn’t Understand, by Megan Devine

  • About 1440 Multiversity

    Beautifully nestled in the California redwoods near Santa Cruz, our 75-acre campus is within easy reach of San Francisco and Silicon Valley.

    1440 Multiversity is a place to spend time engaging some of life’s most meaningful personal questions and to enjoy, restore, and reenergize yourself as you do it.

    You’ll find new energy through immersion learning—setting aside daily urgencies and dedicating uninterrupted time to focus on important, but often elusive, priorities. Our unique collaboration with world-class faculty coupled with an original, inspirational curriculum and magnificent grounds make this a place like no other. Add in fresh, redwood-scented air, delicious and healthy food, deep reflection, fun exercise, and good sleep and you’ve pretty much captured what you’ll experience here.

  • Accommodations

    At 1440 Multiversity, you’ll find a wide range of accommodations to meet your preferences and budget. All of our rooms have been thoughtfully designed to provide comfort, promote reflection, and foster connection with others.

    Accommodation rates include more than just the bed you sleep in.

    Per-person per-night rates include:

    • nourishing locally sourced, seasonal meals
    • daily meditation and yoga classes
    • non-ticketed evening events
    • use of all facilities, including the Fitness Center, steam rooms, and infinity-edge hot tub.

    Guests also enjoy access to woodland trails, cafés, and shops.

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