The mother-daughter bond is a primal one—losing it to death at a young age can be profoundly disruptive. Unable to grieve as children and teens, motherless daughters often experience lifelong feelings of shame, guilt, and alienation.
Join grief and loss counselor Hope Edelman, MA, and licensed therapist Claire Bidwell Smith, LCPC, to explore the common long-term effects of early mother loss and find meaningful ways to reconnect with your mother.
You will gain a greater understanding of the ties between present and past through journaling, experiential activities, journal writing exercises, and small-group work. Designed especially for daughters who lost their mother before the age of 20, you will:
- Reexamine the concept of so-called “normal” adult femininity and what feels comfortable and appropriate for you
- Understand that you are not alone in your experiences and that much of what you’ve faced in life is a common outcome of early mother loss
- Revisit coping skills you relied on as a child—necessary for survival then—and avenues to letting go of old approaches and re-authoring your life story
- Experience re-membering (a narrative therapy practice), letter writing, and guided visualizations to put your new learning into practice.
You will leave with new self-care tools, new ways to cope with the daily stresses of life, and new insights into present-day relationships. The program will be tailored to the unique needs of the group.
Hope Edelman, MA
Author, writing instructor, grief and loss coach
Hope Edelman is a grief and loss coach, sought-after public speaker, and the best-selling author of Motherless Daughters, Motherless Mothers, and the memoir The Possibility of Everything. Her books have been published in 16 countries and inspired a worldwide movement for motherless women.
A Martha Beck-trained life coach specializing in grief and loss, Hope has developed three custom-designed programs for clients and has led Motherless Daughters groups and annual luncheons around the world. She co-leads Motherless Daughters Retreats and events, including an expedition for motherless women through the Andes, during which the group trekked above 15,000 feet and volunteered at an orphanage in Peru.
Hope holds a master’s degree in nonfiction writing from the University of Iowa, and has been teaching memoir writing for more than 25 years, most recently in the MFA program at Antioch University Los Angeles. Her writing has appeared in magazines, newspapers, and anthologies ranging from the New York Times to Real Simple and CNN.com. She is an Alumni Fellow at the University of Iowa and an inductee in the Medill Hall of Achievement at Northwestern University.View Bio PageClaire Bidwell Smith, LCPC
Licensed therapist, instructor, and grief counselor
Claire Bidwell Smith is a therapist specializing in grief, and the author of two books about grief and loss. Published in 17 countries, The Rules of Inheritance, a coming-of-age memoir about grief, was a Books for a Better Life Award nominee and a Barnes and Noble Discover Great New Writers selection. After This: When Life Is Over Where Do We Go? chronicles Claire’s journey as a grief therapist searching for meaning as she explores various beliefs about the afterlife.
Claire has a bachelor’s degree from The New School university and a master’s degree in clinical psychology from Antioch University. She works as a writing coach and manuscript consultant, providing clients with writing direction, editing, and publishing tips.
She has a private practice in Los Angeles, California, and leads grief and writing workshops and retreats around the country. She has written for numerous publications, including the New York Times, The Huffington Post, Salon.com, Slate, Psychology Today, Yoga Journal, and Chicago Public Radio.View Bio Page
Explore the lifelong effects of early mother loss in a community of like-minded women in a safe space to cry, laugh, stretch, and grow.
Join a nationwide sisterhood of women who understand the particular needs of early mother loss, and share your fears, challenges, hopes, and triumphs.
Empower yourself with new communication skills for interacting with family members, and find a new sense of connection to your mother, no matter how long she has been gone.
Things to Know/Schedule
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Open to women of any age who lost mothers to death during childhood and adolescence (up to and including age 20).
What to Wear
Comfortable clothes, including exercise clothing for a yoga class
Motherless Daughters, Hope Edelman
The Rules of Inheritance, Claire Bidwell Smith
Special Interest To
Helping professionals who work with women and/or are motherless daughters themselves
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Per-person per-night rates include:
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- non-ticketed evening events
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