Xanet Pailet|Kai Wu: The Power of Pleasure at 1440 Multiversity

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The Power of Pleasure

Unlock the Secrets to Connect with Women

September 20 - 22, 2019

Friday - Sunday, 2 nights

All-inclusive program package to include:

<ul> <li>Tuition</li> <li>Three Meals in Kitchen Table (daily)</li> <li>Shared or Private Accommodations</li> <li>Signature classes and wellness offerings</li> </ul> <p>Please Note: All packages are priced per person. Should you elect a shared accommodation and community hall bath, 1440 will randomly pair you with a gender-specific roommate. Only private rooms have the option of a private bath.  1440 Multiversity is a smoke-free campus.</p>

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Program Description


Pleasing a woman sensually can be mysterious and intimidating for some men and can lead to feelings of inadequacy and frustration. Men who have confidence in the bedroom know how to successfully navigate partners’ needs, boundaries, and personalities.

In this unique weekend of experiential learning with Xanet Pailet and Kai Wu, you will have the opportunity to learn and practice new skills and receive immediate supportive and loving feedback from a group of trained female intimacy coaches.

In this workshop you will:

  • Learn how to become a more passionate, confident, and skilled lover
  • Discover the secrets to how a woman likes to be loved and touched, and learn how to effectively use romance and passion
  • Learn exactly how to show up in the moment and create an environment that allows women to feel safe and surrender
  • Rediscover the joy and pleasure of sex for deeper intimacy and healthier relationships.

Walk away with ways to connect with your body, your sexuality, and your pleasure—and truly connect with your partner. You’ll experience more confidence in all arenas—from the bedroom to the boardroom.

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  • Faculty Bio
    Xanet Pailet

    Certified sex and intimacy educator and coach

    Xanet Pailet is the best-selling author of Living an Orgasmic Life. Xanet is a recovered New York City healthcare lawyer who lived in a sexless marriage for over two decades. After experiencing her own sexual healing and awakening in 2011, she transitioned her career into a full-time sex and intimacy educator and coach.

    Xanet believes that pleasure is our birthright and she is passionate about helping women and men find their way back into their bodies, their desires, and their pleasure. She works with couples who are in sexless marriages and women and men who have experienced abuse and trauma. She helps them heal their wounds, release their shame, and reconnect with their sexuality.

    Xanet loves men—she has two adult sons of her own. She understands how challenging it is to be a man these days. She and Kai created this workshop to provide a supportive, safe space for men to better understand how to show up for women in their life.

    Xanet is a certified Somatica® sex and intimacy coach, sexological body worker, holistic pelvic care practitioner, Tantra educator, and Somatic Experiencing® trauma practitioner. She is on the faculty of the Ecstatic Living Institute and the Somatica Institute.

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    Kai Wu

    Intimacy and relationship coach, somatic sex educator

    Kai Wu is a love, sex, and relationship coach, somatic sex educator, and ancestral healing practitioner. Her mission is to support all people so they can find joy, peace, and freedom in their bodies and relationships. “This work is my great love and my form of activism,” she says.

    Kai is cofounder of Embodiment Arts Collective, a San Francisco-based, multidisciplinary healing arts collective with a sex-affirming and inclusive social justice mission. She is also a senior faculty member of the Ecstatic Living Institute.

    Kai helps people find their own voices, strengths, and desires, independent of cultural and societal messages. From this authentic self, we can be confident in who we are and have the satisfying sex and relationships we really want. We can also have the greatest impact—not only on our own lives, but on our communities and the world at large.

    Kai was born in South America and spent most of her childhood and young adult life living in different places around the world. She is multilingual and multicultural and, in her practice, she supports people cross-culturally. Some of her specialties include women’s issues, male sexual dysfunction, cultural reclamation, and working with people who come from what are considered “traditional” cultures, religions, or backgrounds. Kai is a certified Somatica® practitioner trained in the Somatica Method® of sex therapy and relationship coaching, as well as a certified SkyDancing® Tantra teacher and Sexological bodyworker.

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  • Why Attend
    • Xanet and Kai understand how challenging it is to be a man these days; they created this workshop to provide a supportive, safe space for men to better understand how to show up for women in their life.<br />

    • Explore how to understand women’s sexual desires and communication styles and understand what intimacy means.

    • Learn how to show up as your authentic self for long-lasting, satisfying relationships.

  • Things to Know/Schedule

    Program Schedule

    Opening Day

    2:15 pm
    Check-in begins; rooms are ready by 4:00 pm
    Luggage storage is available

    5:00 — 6:15 pm Embodied Movement or Meditation Class

    5:30pm — 7:30 pm Dinner at Kitchen Table

    7:30 — 9:00 pm Program Session


    Daily Schedule

    7:00 am — 8:00 am Embodied Movement or Meditation Class

    7:00 am — 9:00 am Breakfast at Kitchen Table

    9:00 am — 12:30 pm Morning Program Session

    12:00 pm — 2:00 pm Lunch at Kitchen Table

    1:00 pm — 1:45 pm Outdoor Experience

    2:00 pm — 4:00 pm Afternoon Program Session

    5:00 pm — 6:15 pm Embodied Movement or Meditation Class

    5:30 pm — 7:30 pm Dinner at Kitchen Table

    7:30 pm — 9:00 pm Evening Program Session


    Closing Day

    7:00 am — 8:00 am Embodied Movement or Meditation Class

    7:00 am — 9:00 am Breakfast at Kitchen Table

    8:30 am — 11:30 am Morning Program Session

    11:00 am Checkout Time

    12:00 pm — 2:00 pm Lunch at Kitchen Table—Departure day lunch is included in your stay.


    Men only

    Experience Level

    None required.

    What to Wear

    Wear comfortable clothing you can move around in—long pants—no shorts

    Recommended Reading

    Required: Living an Orgasmic Life, by Xanet Pailet

    Recommended: Cockfidence, by Celeste Hirschman and Danielle Harel

    Special Interest to

    All men—whether single or in a relationship—are welcome.

  • About 1440 Multiversity

    Beautifully nestled in the California redwoods near Santa Cruz, our 75-acre campus is within easy reach of San Francisco and Silicon Valley.

    1440 Multiversity is a place to spend time engaging some of life's most meaningful personal questions and to enjoy, restore, and reenergize yourself as you do it.

    You'll find new energy through immersion learning—setting aside daily urgencies and dedicating uninterrupted time to focus on important, but often elusive, priorities. Our unique collaboration with world-class faculty coupled with an original, inspirational curriculum and magnificent grounds make this a place like no other. Add in fresh, redwood-scented air, delicious and healthy food, deep reflection, fun exercise, and good sleep and you've pretty much captured what you'll experience here.

  • Accommodations

    At 1440 Multiversity, you’ll find a wide range of accommodations to meet your preferences and budget. All of our rooms have been thoughtfully designed to provide comfort, promote reflection, and foster connection with others.

    Accommodation rates include more than just the bed you sleep in.

    Per-person per-night rates include:

    • nourishing locally sourced, seasonal meals
    • daily meditation and yoga classes
    • non-ticketed evening events
    • use of all facilities, including the Fitness Center, steam rooms, and infinity-edge hot tub.

    Guests also enjoy access to woodland trails, cafés, and shops.


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