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Wired for Love Couple Workshop

Creating a Successful, Personalized Approach to Your Relationship
10 CE Hours

1440 Multiversity 800 Bethany Drive Scotts Valley,CA 95066

10 CE Hours

“People are complex,” says Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, clinician, teacher, and developer of the Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy® (PACT). “We don’t come with manuals that explain and automate the process of getting along.”

Even if we did, we aren’t robots: what works for one person or relationship won’t necessarily work for another. Nor does it work to fly blind, as many couples do, and expect relationships to fall simply into place.

PACT changes everything. Developed based on cutting-edge research in neuroscience, attachment theory, and nervous-system arousal, this PACT-inspired workshop offers you an understanding of the basic principles that make a relationship successful.

During this fun and interesting weekend of teaching, interactive exercises, and experimenting, you will learn how to:

  • Explain how to fix, repair, or correct injuries or errors in a timely manner.
  • Create shared principles of governance to guide their behavior.
  • Define and describe attachment orientations.
  • Define secure functioning in love relationships.
  • Identify and correct situations whereby either mismanage thirds.

Stan and Tracey will explain the fundamental biological realities of human bonding, and reveal the psychobiological particulars of each one of us.

As a result, you will come to understand how you and your partner really work. The tools you take home are invaluable, and ready to be used immediately in making your relationship thrive.

Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT | Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin

August 11 - 13, 2017
Friday-Sunday , 2 nights

10 CE Credits available

$325 Tuition

Plus 2 nights all-inclusive accommodations priced separately below.

Registration Closed

Program Description

10 CE Hours

“People are complex,” says Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, clinician, teacher, and developer of the Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy® (PACT). “We don’t come with manuals that explain and automate the process of getting along.”

Even if we did, we aren’t robots: what works for one person or relationship won’t necessarily work for another. Nor does it work to fly blind, as many couples do, and expect relationships to fall simply into place.

PACT changes everything. Developed based on cutting-edge research in neuroscience, attachment theory, and nervous-system arousal, this PACT-inspired workshop offers you an understanding of the basic principles that make a relationship successful.

During this fun and interesting weekend of teaching, interactive exercises, and experimenting, you will learn how to:

  • Explain how to fix, repair, or correct injuries or errors in a timely manner.
  • Create shared principles of governance to guide their behavior.
  • Define and describe attachment orientations.
  • Define secure functioning in love relationships.
  • Identify and correct situations whereby either mismanage thirds.

Stan and Tracey will explain the fundamental biological realities of human bonding, and reveal the psychobiological particulars of each one of us.

As a result, you will come to understand how you and your partner really work. The tools you take home are invaluable, and ready to be used immediately in making your relationship thrive.

Faculty Bio

Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT

Stan Tatkin is a clinician, researcher, teacher, and developer of A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy® (PACT), which draws on cutting-edge research in neuroscience, attachment theory, and biology.

He is the author of three well-received books about relationship—Wired for Dating, Wired for Love, and Your Brain on Love—and is coauthor of Love and War in Intimate Relationships.

Dr. Tatkin maintains a clinical practice in Calabasas, California, where he uses PACT with couples and individuals. He and his wife, Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin, developed the PACT Institute to train other psychotherapists to use PACT in their clinical practice.

Dr. Tatkin also teaches and supervises family medicine residents at Kaiser Permanente and is an assistant clinical professor at the UCLA David Geffen School of Medicine. He is on the board of directors of Lifespan Learning Institute and serves as a core member on Relationships First, a nonprofit organization founded by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt.

 

Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin

Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin has served as the director of a variety of philanthropic family foundations for the last 29 years, working with the dynamics and mechanics of families through daily interactions with the family members whose foundations she manages.

Tracey is cofounder of the PACT Institute with her husband Dr. Stan Tatkin, the developer of PACT (a Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy). Together they travel nationally and internationally, educating mental-health professionals in PACT.

Tracey studied business administration at UCLA and holds a master of arts in philanthropic studies, as well as a master’s degree in public administration, and is currently a doctoral candidate at the Walden School of Public Policy.

Why Attend

  • Learn specific ways to create a successful relationship together

  • Read body language and recognize triggered states

  • Understand how to manage conflict and integrate mind and body to build a
    secure-functioning relationship

  • Begin to construct a personalized owner’s manual for your relationship.

Things to Know

  • Program Schedule

    Friday, August 11

    7:30 PM-7:45 PM: Welcome & Introduction
Overview of what couples can expect over the weekend from this retreat. Include the items on page 2 of the handbook. Let them know you might ask people to participate in a fishbowl etc… Establish the confidentiality in the room.

    7:45 PM-8:00 PM: Principal 1: Couple bubble? Why be a couple?

    8:00 PM-8:15 PM: Secure functioning Introduce and explain the concept of secure functioning

    8:15 PM-9:15 PM: Each person briefly indicate their name, where they are from, why they came, and what one thing they hope to gain from the weekend.

    9:15 PM-9:30 PM: Wrap Up/ Q&A
Bedtime exercise/homework: Putting each other to bed. (set up gazing importance briefly), which also sets up landing and launchings – or separations and reunions.

    Saturday, August 12

    6:30 AM-7:45 AM: Yoga and Meditation

    7:00 AM-8:30 AM: Breakfast
    9:00 AM-9:20 AM: Exercise: King and Queen

    9:20 AM-9:35 AM: Debrief and Q & A

    9:35 AM-9:50 AM: Principal 2: Loving Warring Brain

    9:50 AM-10:10 AM: Exercise: Couples face to face and are led through “poses” by Stan (*see below)

    10:10 AM-10:25 AM: Debrief and Q & A

    10:25 AM-10:55 AM: Principal 3: Know Your Partner – Introduce attachment styles (wave, island, anchor), where they come from and why they matter.

    10:55 AM-11:10 AM: Q & A

    11:10 AM-11:30 AM: Demonstration: Role play with a couple where one is an island and the other is a wave. The result should be giving them some “tools.”

    11:30 AM-11:45 AM: Principal 4: How to Please & Soothe Your Partner

    11:45 AM-12:00 PM: Demo how to soothe and please

    12:00-12:15 PM: Q & A

    *look away from your partner, still face, folded arms, finger pointing, dismissive hand movement, head to the side, back to partner, roll eyes, breathe on partner, chin raised, testosterone arms, lips tight, teeth bared.

    12:15 PM – 3:00 PM Lunch/Break

    3:00 PM-3:15 PM: Talk about the 3 or 4 things

    3:15 PM-3:35 PM: demo for 3 to 4 things

    3:35 PM-3:45 PM: Q & A

    3:45 PM-3:55 PM: Principal 5: Landings and Launchings finish about reunions and lead into attraction without fear, threat or shame

    3:55 PM-4:15 PM: Demonstrations: Welcome home and beckoning exercises how to get your partner to come home

    4:15 PM-4:25 PM: Q & A

    4:25 PM-4:35 PM: Principal 6: Go To People

    4:35 PM-5:00 PM: Principal 7: Thirds (Thirds needs time)

    5:30 PM-5:15 PM: Fish bowl with a couple struggling with this principal (assistant participation as third if necessary)

    5:15 PM-5:30 PM: Q & A

    5:30 PM-5:50 PM: Principal 9: Love up Close – partners face-to-face while Stan explains the concept and leads them with playdoh face – first the first name for love part here as well

    5:50 PM-6:00 PM: Debrief and Q & A/Wrap up include housekeeping, be on time in the morning

    Sunday, August 13

    6:30 AM-7:45 AM: Yoga and Meditation

    7:00 AM-8:30 AM: Breakfast
    8:30 AM-8:45 AM: Check in

    8:45 AM-9:00 AM: Principal 8: Fighting Well

    9:00 AM-9:25 AM: Demo: Fish bowl with couple – couple struggling with fighting or just wanting your guidance for 5- minute resolution/compromise

    9:25 AM-9:40 AM: Q & A

    9:40 AM-9:55 AM: Principal 10: How Partnership Can Heal You

    9:55 AM-10:15 AM: Demo

    10:15 AM-10:25 AM: Q & A

    10:25 AM-10:35 AM: Conclusion with explanation of Naikan and social contract

    10:35 AM-11:00 AM: Exercise: Futurize your Partnership – gazing with Stan in trance

    11:00 AM-11:30 AM: Debrief exercise and Q & A/Wrap up and closing the weekend – so important to wrap it up and tie it together with a BEAUTIFUL bow

  • Prerequisites

    None required.

  • Experience Level

    Psychologists, Psychiatrists, Social Workers, MFTs, Counselors. All levels.

  • CEs Available

    This course has been approved for 10 CE hours for qualified participants. To learn how and where to apply, click HERE.

    Cancellations and Refunds
    If You Cancel

    • If you cancel 14 or more days prior to your arrival date, payments made will be refunded in full (less a $50 processing fee).
    • If you cancel between 13 days and 1 day prior to your arrival date, a nonrefundable credit (less a $50 processing fee) will be held for one year from the date of issue.
    • No credit or refund is available if you cancel on your arrival day, if you do not show up, or if you leave a program or event early.
    • No refund will be available if you attend a program and are dissatisfied with its presentation or content.

    If 1440 Multiversity Cancels

    On rare occasions, due to unforeseen circumstances, 1440 Multiversity may need to cancel a program. Should this circumstance arise, you will receive a full refund.

    Grievances
    Participants of approved continuing education courses may register complaints with the approval entity with an option to appeal to their licensing Board if displeased with the results of the process.

    For questions or concerns, please email ginny.paige@1440.org, Programming Department.

  • Recommended Reading

    Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner’s Brain Can Help You Defuse Conflicts and Spark Intimacy, Stan Taktin

Accommodations

Standard Double
Affordable comfort with a hall bathroom.
Weeknight rates from $160 per person per night based on double occupancy.*

Standard Single
Affordable solo comfort with a shared hall bathroom.**
Weeknight rates from $175.

Traditional Double
Tastefully designed rooms with a range of bed sizes.
Weeknight rates from $190 per person per night based on double occupancy.*

Suites
Spacious rooms with additional seating and special touches.
Weeknight rates from $330 per person per night based on double occupancy.*

Pods
Modern, Asian-style sleeping space for 8 with twin beds.
Available for booking in mid-February 2018.
Weeknight rates from $140 per person per night.*

Commuter Pass
Register for a program without spending the night. Includes all meals + use of campus amenities. Limited availability.
Weeknight rates from $95 per program night.***

Accommodation rates include more than just the bed you sleep in. Per-person per-night rates include:

  • nourishing farm-to-table meals
  • daily meditation and yoga classes
  • non-ticketed evening events
  • use of all facilities, including the fitness center, steam rooms, and whirlpool.

Guests also enjoy access woodland trails, and enjoy cafés, shops, and evening programs.

*Plus tax. Includes meals, activities, and services. There is an additional charge to book a room privately.
**Plus tax. Includes meals, activities, and services. Limited availability.
***Plus tax. A program night starts upon check-in and goes through lunchtime of the following day (roughly 24 hrs).

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